Why we feel so much shame

Parental Rage

Being yelled at, screamed at, and verbally abused can cause a child to stuff their emotions and learn to fear expressing their true feelings, which causes a build-up of shame.


Emotional Neglect

Children who felt emotionally ignored, and who were denied secure attachments can find themselves detached from their own emotional selves and feeling responsible for not being able to connect with those they loved.


Parental Projection

Parents who project their flaws onto their children can cause them to introject these flaws and cause a child to believe their parent’s harmful words are true.


Childhood Trauma

Childhood trauma can cause the child to shut down their emotions, which blocks the child’s mind from being able to process the traumatic event sufficiently, therefore leading to shame filled emotions.


When a child is shamed, they are forced to detach from the very essence of who they are. Shame conditions a child to believe who they are is not enough. This is where our identity issues originate; in the belly of shame.

Codependency is truly ingrained into our subconscious minds and have created cognitive biases we must unearth, observe, witness, and reframe.

The inner child in us who has been wounded, shamed, blamed, pushed away, and dehumanized in some cases, is alive and well, living, breathing and perceiving through the mystical wonders of what we refer to as neurology.

Our past experiences created emotions, which created thoughts, and then feelings and then beliefs. These beliefs are now rooted deeply in the grooves of our brains through railroad track like miles of neurological pathways of neurons, dendrites, axons, and synapses.

Below the veil of consciousness, we THINK we are our past experiences UNTIL we awaken, and learn to observe our programming for what it truly is: FAULY DATA.


Lisa A. Romano


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